And I don’t want to hear about him either. I don’t care if he bought you flowers, or took you to see a cute rabbit at the farm, I don’t even care if he’s really nice and likes all the same crap you like. I JUST DON’T CARE. If this sounds a bit extreme, let me break it down into exactly why I don’t give a toss.
1. They’re your boyfriend not mine.
No matter how sweet, caring, hot, amazing in bed, this person is, they aren’t doing any of this stuff to me. I don’t want them to do it to me, and I’m glad they’re doing all this supposedly great stuff to you, no, really I am, but it impacts so marginally on my life that to have to hear about, read about it, and get twittered at about it, all the freaking time is about as useful to me as you telling me about how relieved you after your first piss of the day.
2. All this talking about them is eating into my valuable time.
And your valuable time, and dare I say it? our valuable time. We could be talking about how shitty Lady Gaga’s dancing is when compared with that of Beysus or why everything on the internet comes from 4chan. We could be having an intelligent discussion on the link between yamambas and Essex girls. We could teaching me to burp the alphabet. We could NOT be talking about how psyched you were when Tarquin ran you a bath after work.
3. I don’t know them.
When a friend goes out with a mutual friend there is a slightly more vested interest, I liked both of you enough to be friends with you in the first place evidently. But if I’ve only ever met him with you then I don’t have a clue what he’s like. Maybe in time we’ll get to be best buds, sharing a cup of cocoa in the kitchen before bed. It’s unlikely, he wants to stick his dick in you, I don’t: we are very different people.
4. Are they really that amazing?
Really? Really really? If you wrote down their qualities objectively on paper would they be more amazing than Cory Doctorow? I mean seriously, think about it, he gave you a chocolate bar cos he called you a mean name when he was angry, really, it’s kind of douchey.
5. Unless it’s exciting, funny, or gross, I just don’t care.
Boyfriend fell over and farted on you? Great! You both dodged a speeding motorbike that nearly mowed you down? Amazing! He fell over while naked and arguing with you? Jackpot! Just think of the rule “Tits or GTFO” and you’ll see my conversation criteria.
Please don’t go away thinking I hate your other halves, or you, I really don’t. Your relationship is probably super exciting… to you and them. I’m sure that they make you see stars and fireworks when you kiss not pencils or empty ketchup bottles because, yeah, I get it, you’re in love. But don’t blame me if when I ask you how your weekend was and you reply with “Well, Rory Boring and I…” I high-tail it out of your presence.
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I love you for this post. When I articulate these feelings, everyone gives me that look. The one that says ‘you are single and will die alone. Therefore you are just jealous and bitter of my happiness with a boy’. It is usually accompanied with that simpering smile that says ‘ btw your bitter bitch routine is why you’re single.’
It couldn’t just be that listening to the repetition of in-jokes and private moments is dull and oddly uncomfortable to listen to?
Way to be invested in your friends lives Ness.
Gherk – I really don’t understand people who want to tell everyone the minutiae of their relationship. Isn’t it nice enough that you’ve got a nice boyfriend? While some things about boyfriends are interesting, when people tell me really really boring things about them that they think are ever so fascinating my brain turns into red mist. Most of the people who bore you shitless are the one who’ll break up I reckon, or go on to have children and talk about nothing but them. Argh!
As for you Hanny, you know I like hearing about boyfriends when it’s interesting, and I am in invested in your life, duh. NOW EMAIL ME PLZ!
I like the fact that ‘boyfriend fell over and farted on you’ is the kind of stuff you’d LIKE to hear about.
I also like the fact the ‘anonymous’ fake email I used for this is yeah@bumchums.com. I really want that email now.
It’d be funny! Who doesn’t like laughing at other people’s misfortunes??