Comments on: Choose Your Own Adventure.

By: Eve

Eve — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 13:52:43 +0000

It’s definitely better not waiting around, you experience so much more of life if you don’t. With that said, though, my own adventure-choosing personality is pretty much definitely what keeps me single. It’s tough on anyone I date, because I’m like “hey, moving to London for 6 months! Moving back to the U.S for a few months! Moving back to London for a year! Oops, no, I can’t meet you tomorrow because I’ll be in Manchester not London. Sorry I never answered yr texts the other day but I was in Berlin seeing this band etc etc…” and there’s so much ME going on that there’s not a whole lot of room for any HIMS in there, unless they’re content to be dragged around like a suitcase after me. :S

By: InBetweenDays

InBetweenDays — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 10:29:47 +0000

too early? lol .. no worries.. thanks for the response :)
yeah, that makes sense.. it’s all the fault of the romance novelists damnit!
you’d think by now that we would have gotten past such unrealistic ideals.. but it’s probably just a hang over from the sexist past.. the “house-wife era”.. which is why those old ladies propagate these ideas!
i’d like to believe people are waking up to the fact that these ideals are behind us.. but apparently we still have a long way to go – and perhaps they’re so deeply entrenched that they’ll never be removed

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:46:36 +0000

I think boys are waiting, yes, but it doesn’t seem like they’re waiting in the same way girls are encouraged to. Whereas almost everyone, male and female, seems to be waiting to find someone great, to me it feels like girls are encouraged to wait for someone who will change everything in their life, whereas with boys the person will just come along for a fun ride. If that makes sense? It’s very early in the morning for me…

By: InBetweenDays

InBetweenDays — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:22:41 +0000

yep, must agree with you.. if you’re talking stereo-typical gender roles, then yeah, it’s supposedly a girl thing to have to wait until the “right” boy comes along and makes the move.. but i think it’s bullshit, to be honest.. the basic truth is that the game has changed and we’re far from “traditional roles” in so many ways, so why should this be any different? and don’t you think it’s true that, aside from the puke inducing indie film dude (well.. in spite of him), there genuinely are guys out there who are “waiting” for the right girl to come along?
but i guess your advice applies to both sexes:)